Thanks Atariel for the info still would really like to know why i was defeated when the attacker could not harm me within my walls though was really strange.
Also since this was definetly a siege he stayed well out of my castle defences shouldn't food become important if the attacker runs out of food prior to the defender the siege is broken and the attacker loses if the defender runs out of food first then the defender is defeated. Of course food would then need to be consumed.
Wish a veteran would explain pvp as a defender and as an attacker so a newb would be more likely to participate in pvp. As far as i was concerned i won the attacker lost. Even a dev responce would be nice since it appears i am not the only one who was confused by this so called defeat well situated behind my walls.